It can be very difficult sometimes to be happy about others success. Like really happy, without asking anything in return.
You feel jealous, envious, sometimes angry about it, and ask yourself : “Why I don’t succeed? why I don’t have this lifestyle too?” However, when you try to decenter of yourself to focus on others, you can feel a real happiness.
You friend announces you that she is pregnant, you smile and tell her that you are happy, but inside you feel terribly bad.
Your bestie asks you to be her bridesmaid, you are so excited but in the same time, asking yourself why you are not married.
Why it is so difficult to be happy about others happiness or success?
The answer is on our ego, so present that it avoids us to be really glad about people achievements and happiness.
1. You have to decenter of yourself
Jealousy, envy, low self-esteem are not sources of joy, while being really glad for someone’s happiness, will make you happy. Stepping outside of yourself makes it easier to not compare your story to someone else’s.
2. Be inspired by their success
Instead of being jealous or thinking that your friends don’t deserve their happiness, be inspired!
You find an old school friend on LinkedIn and discover that she has a high position and great career. Take the time to examine the sorts of things that your friends do that may be different than what you’ve been doing. You can also put aside your ego and take this opportunity to contact her and ask for advices!
3. Take time to appreciate what you have
We often focus on what we don’t have, while gratitude is the pathway to happiness and success in life. Write out everything that you’re grateful for. Even if it’s just for the air in your lungs and the heart beating continuously in your chest, write it down.
Try it! You can use it to help you grow into the person you want to be on your own terms. Love. Myriam