Whether you are just starting to develop your personal development goals or you are a veteran looking for more ideas in self-improvement, you should have a personal growth plan.
Writing out your goals will solidify your commitment to acting on them. Over the years I got pretty good at making these personal lists.
Below are the personal growth examples I used in my quest for self-improvement. Use these when making your own list of personal goals.
1. Learn to Love Yourself.
I remember when I first heard the phrase “love yourself”. Of course, I love myself, I thought. But did I really? I repeated the words, “I love myself” but every single time I said it, I cringed a little bit. I didn’t believe it and my brain knew it. No matter how much I tried to “trick” myself into loving me, it just wasn’t working. That negative voice in my head kept having some pretty awful things to say and I just couldn’t break free of that voice.
The best thing that worked for me was doing the right affirmations. What are those you ask? Well, I’m sure you’ve heard of affirmations before. Essentially they are phrases you say each and every day (sometimes several times a day) until they are so ingrained in you that you fully and wholeheartedly believe them.
The reason saying “I love myself” as an affirmation didn’t work was because it was SO far out there for me, that I literally thought that it was impossible.
So I had to break it down a little further. First, I found one thing about myself that I knew I loved. Like my hair for example. For a few days, I said the affirmation “I have beautiful, long hair”.
After a few days of that (and it helped to actually fix my hair up those days), I added to it. “I have beautiful hair and gorgeous green eyes”. After a few more days, I bumped up my affirmation game to “I have beautiful eyes and I’m a gorgeous and funny person”. And so on and so forth.
Cut out negative self-talk.
This was NOT easy.
I didn’t realize how much negative self-talk I actually did until I focused on it. Even joking self-deprecation can be harmful. Like when you make a mistake and say, “Oh my goodness, I’m so stupid”. Don’t do that. Don’t talk to yourself like that.
Give yourself a ton of grace and talk to yourself like you would encourage a child that makes mistakes. Say that’s ok, figure out how you can learn from it and move on.
2. Create and Maintain Healthy Habits.
This can really be a struggle for some people, but let me tell you, it’s a game changer, especially when you eat right. Food can either heal you or make you sick. When you are eating the right foods you don’t feel bloated, constipated. You don’t have headaches or body aches. Your body can heal things like that sore back you have.
I could go on and on and on about the benefits of eating truly healthy but we’d be here forever if that is the case. What I’ve found has worked for me is doing the 131 Plan. It’s a way of eating unlike no other. It’s based on our biology and backed by science and it just makes sense, for me. Find what’s right for you and stick to it.
While we’re on the topic of health, get into working out regularly. I’m sure you’ve heard several times over and over the benefits of exercise.
Don’t just do it for weight loss, do it because of how it makes you feel.
Trust that it may take a few weeks to feel the benefits of exercise but it is SO worth it! Also, vary your workouts between cardio and strength training. You won’t bulk up by strength training, trust me!! Find something you love and that energizes you.
3. Practice Gratitude.
One of the best success tips that I constantly hear is this right here. Practice gratitude. The best way to do this is daily. Which, can obviously be a bit cumbersome, but stick with me here. If you are consistently being grateful for the things you have and that have happened to you, you are way more likely to achieve happiness.
This also lets the universe know that you are grateful for what you are getting and to send more of that awesome stuff your way. It’s positive energy. And you get what you put out.
4. Learn Something New.
I love this one because it can be so much fun! Plus, if you want to grab your hubby or bestie and try something new together. This can be a painting class, guitar lessons, ice skating, or something you’ve always wanted to try but just haven’t yet for some reason. Use this as your excuse to broaden your horizon and work your brain muscles.
5. Become a Master of Your Time.
Managing our time can be a tedious daunting task. However, if we don’t manage time, time will control us. It’s important to be diligent when planning out your day.
By mastering your time and your schedule this will set up for success exponentially. Do you have a big long list of things to do? Narrow that down to the top 3 things that you need to do and go from there. Managing time is much easier to do in bitesize chunks.
6. Make Connections.
If you are an introvert this will help push you out of your comfort zone. Find a meetup or a local social gathering through Facebook of groups that get together that have similar interests as you do. Meeting new people and making connections can open up so many new opportunities to you.
Next time you are in a public place make an effort to meet someone new each time. Open up the conversation and ask an open-ended question like “Is this your favorite coffee place?” (or wherever you are). This will get the conversation going and open up to possibly meet up with this person again.
You can also do this online. Go to any groups you are part of and strike up a conversation. It’s usually best to start the conversation in the group and then ask if you can private message the person to make a further connection. If you run your own business, these tips can be a huge catalyst for finding new customers.
7. Conquer a Fear.
Fear holds people back so much in their lives and they always regret the things they didn’t do because of fear. Whether that be meeting new people (see above), petting a snake, holding a spider, or taking a flight.
Whatever fear you may have, make it a huge goal to conquer it. Just imagine how confident you’d feel by doing that! The most successful people learn how to conquer those fears that are truly holding them back.
8. Learn the Art of Consistency.
So tell me, have you ever started a project or a goal, but only got about halfway through and then gave up? Maybe you bought a program that was going to help you start your business and make thousands within weeks, but you got distracted by a new offer 2 weeks into the old program. Or maybe you started that 90-day workout program and after about 3 weeks just gave up. Yeah, I’ve been there, done that too. But few months ago I made it my mission to be more consistent.
And by consistent I mean, if I start something, I FINISH it. And I MEAN FINISH IT. No doing it for a few weeks then giving up.
To truly be successful you need to be consistent.
When you are making a change in your life, it’s hard to be consistent with the new rules you need to follow to make the changes you want to make. But it is vital to the success of your new task to stay the course completely.
Let us know in the comments what personal development goals you are working on!